Lessons For My 11-year-old Self

  • Your dad loves you… even though he’s not around.
  • Stop wishing mom would stop drinking. She won’t… but it’ll get better.
  • Don’t lose your virginity. You’ll regret it in the morning.
  • There will be plenty of time for boys. They don’t matter now.
  • You’re going to feel like you can’t live without him; put the pills down.
  • No there’s nothing wrong with you for being attracted to girls.
  • Yes. You being sexually abused matters.
  • You deserve to wear short sleeves when the weather is warm. Don’t let those “cat scratches” stop you.
  • If he hits you once, he’ll hit you again.
  • Trust your intuition.
  • Learn to deal with the bullies instead of running away from them.
  • Don’t stop writing.
  • I know you want to die but you’ll live to see better days.
  • You are enough.
  • You’re not fat. Regardless of what your family says.
  • You’re going to go through several therapists over the years but it’ll be worth it.
  • Don’t allow your past to haunt you.
  • Don’t let your anxiety stop you from going after the things you want.
  • Put yourself first.
  • I know it’s hard but you have to learn to love yourself. You deserve to love yourself as intensely as you love others.
  • Don’t give up. Please… whatever you do, don’t give up.


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